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What approach do I use when working with clients?

What is a pluralistic approach?


Pluralistic Approach

I work from a pluralistic approach, which means I believe there is no single “right way” to support every person. Each individual is unique, and so their therapy should be too.

Instead of one set method, I draw from a range of therapeutic models and tools — adapting the approach to suit your personality, needs, goals, and preferred way of working. We explore what feels most helpful for you and adjust together as we go.

This approach allows us to:

Work collaboratively, as partners in your journey

Tailor therapy to your strengths, interests, and comfort

Respond flexibly to what you need each session

Use different techniques depending on your goals

Honour your voice, pace, and preferences


For some people, talking works best.
For others, creative expression, play, movement, or quiet reflection feels safer.
Sometimes we learn skills and strategies; other times we sit with emotion, deepen insight, or gently process past experiences.

There is no one-size-fits-all here.
You are the expert in your own life, and my role is to support you in a way that feels meaningful, empowering, and aligned with who you are.

Why a Pluralistic Approach Works Well for Neurodivergent Clients

Every neurodivergent person’s brain works differently, and no single therapeutic method fits everyone. A pluralistic approach honours this by adapting therapy to your unique needs, strengths, sensory profile, and communication style.

For neurodivergent clients, this means you are free to:

Communicate in the way that suits you — talking, writing, drawing, movement, silence, etc

Choose a pace that feels comfortable and safe

Use creative, play-based, structured, or flexible methods depending on what works for your brain

Follow your interests and engage in sessions in a way that feels natural to you

Explore emotions without pressure to “mask” or fit a certain style

Build strategies based on your real-world needs, not generic expectations


Instead of expecting you to fit the therapy, the therapy adapts to fit you.
This supports autonomy, reduces overwhelm, and helps you feel respected, understood, and in control of your own process.

Neurodivergent minds are creative, curious, and beautifully unique — and therapy should  reflect that. 

Modalities I use ..

Creative therapy

Creative therapy

Creative therapy

Creative & Expressive Therapy

Creative therapy invites clients to explore thoughts and emotions through playful, expressive, and imaginative methods. Sometimes words aren’t enough — or they don’t feel accessible yet — and creative expression offers a gentle, empowering way to communicate what’s going on inside.

In my practice, creative therapy may include:

Drawing, painting, and art-making

Music, rhythm, and sound exploration

Movement, dance, and body-based expression

Storytelling, puppetry, and imaginative play

Sand trays, sensory play, and creative materials

Crafts, symbols, and visual expression


These approaches allow feelings, memories, and experiences to surface safely and naturally, without pressure to “find the right words.” Creative therapy supports clients to:

Process emotions in a non-threatening way

Build confidence, self-expression, and self-awareness

Develop emotional regulation and coping skills

Connect with imagination, curiosity, and playfulness

Explore identity, strengths, and personal meaning

Experience joy, creativity, and therapeutic fun

Creative work can be especially powerful for children and young people, who often express themselves most naturally through play and imagination — but adults also benefit deeply from reconnecting with creativity as a pathway to healing and self-discovery.

In my sessions, creative therapy is always choice-based and client-led. There is no right or wrong way to create, and you do not need any artistic ability — just a willingness to explore and express in whatever way feels right for you.

CBT

Creative therapy

Creative therapy

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is a practical, structured approach that helps you understand the connection between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. We work together to explore the challenges you’re facing, notice the patterns that may be keeping you stuck, and develop new, healthier ways of thinking and responding.

In CBT sessions, you will be supported to:

Talk about the issues you’re struggling with in a safe, non-judgmental space

Identify thoughts and beliefs that may be influencing how you feel and behave

Understand how your mind and body respond to stress, worry, and strong emotions

Develop practical tools, strategies, and new perspectives to use in everyday life

Build confidence in managing challenges and making positive changes


CBT empowers you to notice what’s happening inside you and gives you skills to respond rather than react. Over time, this can help reduce stress, anxiety, low mood, and unhelpful patterns — and support you to move toward the life and mindset you want.




DBT

Creative therapy

Person Centred Therapy

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) focuses on helping you understand your emotions, reactions, and behaviours so you can respond in healthier and more effective ways. It is especially helpful when feelings feel big, overwhelming, or difficult to manage.

In DBT sessions, you are supported to:

Notice how you behave and react in certain situations

Explore what is helping you cope and what might be holding you back

Build skills to manage emotions, reduce stress, and stay grounded

Strengthen your ability to communicate clearly and handle relationships effectively

Learn new techniques to navigate challenges with more calm, choice, and control


DBT blends acceptance and change — meaning we work on acknowledging where you are right now, while also finding ways to move toward the life you want. Over time, DBT helps you respond to challenges with clarity, confidence, and compassion for yourself.

Person Centred Therapy

Person Centred Therapy

Person Centred Therapy

Person-Centred Therapy

Person-Centred Therapy is at the heart of everything I do. This approach is grounded in the belief that you are the expert in your own life, and that real growth happens when you feel genuinely heard, respected, and supported.

In our sessions, I offer a warm, safe, and welcoming space where you can talk openly and freely, without judgement or pressure. My role is not to tell you who to be or what to do — instead, I walk alongside you, offering empathy, understanding, and gentle guidance as you explore your thoughts, emotions, and experiences.

Through this approach, you are encouraged to:

Connect with your true self

Build self-trust and confidence

Understand your thoughts and emotions more deeply

Make choices that align with your values and needs

Grow at your own pace, in your own way


Person-Centred Therapy allows you to feel seen and supported as you uncover your strengths, process challenges, and step forward into a more empowered and aligned version of yourself.

Mindfulness

Person Centred Therapy

Play therapy

Mindfulness


Mindfulness is about learning to be present in the moment — gently noticing your thoughts, feelings, and body without judgement. When life becomes overwhelming or emotions feel too big, mindfulness offers a way to slow down, breathe, and reconnect with yourself.


In our sessions, I support you to explore simple, practical mindfulness techniques that help you:


Calm your mind and body


Manage stress, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm


Build awareness of your internal experiences


Stay grounded during challenging moments


Develop a sense of inner peace and coping strength



Mindfulness doesn’t need to be complicated. It can be as simple as focusing on your breath, noticing the world around you, or using grounding strategies to bring yourself back to the present. Together, we will find techniques that feel natural and supportive for you, so you can carry them into everyday life.

Play therapy

Person Centred Therapy

Play therapy

Play Therapy

Play is a child’s natural language and the tools they use to understand the world. In play therapy, children are invited to explore toys, stories, art, and imaginative activities in a way that feels safe, comfortable, and right for them.

Rather than asking children to talk about difficult feelings directly, play therapy allows emotions, worries, experiences, and strengths to emerge naturally through play. This gives children the freedom to express themselves in ways that feel intuitive and empowering.

During play, I gently support children to:

Explore and express feelings

Build emotional understanding and resilience

Develop coping and problem-solving skills

Process stressful or traumatic experiences at their own pace

Strengthen confidence, self-esteem, and a sense of safety

Try out new behaviours and ways of relating to others


Play therapy is child-led — the child chooses the activity and guides the direction of the session. My role is to follow their lead, offer emotional support, and help them make sense of their internal world through connection, curiosity, and compassion.

Through play, children learn, heal, and grow — often without even realising they are doing therapeutic work. Most importantly, play therapy helps children feel seen, heard, valued, and understood in a way that honours their unique voice and developmental stage.

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